Suicide is a serious risk for people suffering with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) that must always be taken seriously. One in ten sufferers of BPD dies by suicide. The BPD suicide rate is similar to that for patients with Schizophrenia and major mood disorder. However, Schizophrenia makes up 1% of the general population while BPD affects 2-3 % of the general population. The rate of BPD suicide is therefore 2-3 times greater than that of schizophrenia. This sad outcome is not readily preventable and usually does not occur when the person is in treatment but when the patient does not recover and/or treatment has been unsuccessful. Many BPD deaths may be related to co-morbid conditions such as substance abuse, eating disorders, or impulsive sex leading to diseases such as AIDES.
The intensity of suicidality amongst patients with BPD varies over time. When people with BPD are acutely suicidal, they may appear to meet criteria for a major depressive episode. The affective or mood symptoms of people with BPD are different from those of people with mood disorders which may explain why they do not respond to antidepressants in the same way as people with depression. People with BPD seem to suffer from early onset dysthmia, a state of always being "blue."
People with this disorder are acutely sensitive, particularly to what they consider as painful. They do not have the ability or skills to tolerate this pain in the moment. Suicide attempts by people with BPD can best be understood as an impulsive response to severe emotional pain or a way of communicating distress. The object of this communication is usually a significant other, family member or a therapist. Suicide threats therefore indicate an attachment and involvement with others. Suicide completion may be associated with a loss of connection to others.
Unfortunately, hospitalizing someone with BPD after a suicide attempt is generally not effective and is no insurance that another attempt will not be made. Once hospitalization is introduced, suicide attempts and admissions can become repetitive with patients embarking on a "suicidal career." If the person is suicidal after discharge, what has been accomplished by the hospitalization? When people with BPD are hospitalized for suicide attempts, they enter an environment that reinforces the very behaviors that therapy is trying to extinguish.
In addition, loved ones generally respond with attention and concern, resulting in a secondary gain that reinforces negative or harmful behaviors. Hospitalization may also provide social contact for persons with BPD who have poor social support. The BPD person generally receives more nursing care than other patients. Marsha Linehan, PhD, discourages the admission of BPD patients to hospitals after suicide attempts.
When a loved one has made a suicide attempt, it is excruciatingly difficult for families to accept that hospitalization can often be ineffective and counter-productive. Families feel it is their role to keep their children or spouses safe. How can not admitting them to a hospital in this frightening emergency situation be appropriate? A family we know has hospitalized their young daughter for 15 months because of an impulsive suicide attempt.
People with BPD need to learn to live and to tolerate their pain. The communicative function of suicidality needs to be understood by therapist and by family. It is a problem to be solved and should not be reinforced negatively. For this reason families must be informed of the rationale behind the treatment and be educated about management of the situation so that they can cooperate with therapy. It is extremely hard to tell a family member that they must endure their loved one's suicidality. Family relationships may becomes "coercive bondage" as the quality of the person's life becomes compromised by overzealous family concern. The family needs support, especially at these times. Ultimately, therapy must help people with BPD to tolerate their pain and find means to solve their problems. A patient with BPD states" When a therapist does not give the expected response to a suicide attempt or threat, they will be accused of not caring. But, what you are really doing is being cruel to be kind. When my doctor wouldn't hospitalize me, I accused him of not caring if I lived or died. He replied, referring to my cycle of repeated hospitalizations, "This is not life!" And, he was 100% right."
Sadly, some people with BPD people need to be suicidal. When they feel they have no power over their life, they retain the choice of death. They may remain suicidal until they feel can control their fate or their lives. The knowledge that they can choose to die allows them to go on living.
Linehan has recommends dealing with suicide as the first priority in a therapy session. The person cannot discuss other issues until this issue is dealt with, thus negatively reinforcing suicidal ideation. Clinicians and families need to respond to suicidal thoughts empathetically while avoiding overly anxious questions about intent. The following type of response may be most appropriate, "you must be feeling particularly upset to be thinking along these lines. Let's figure out what is making things worse and see if we can find a way of dealing with the problem."
The more we understand the suicide attempts of people with BPD, the better we will be able to prevent these unnecessary deaths. Unfortunately, this is not always possible.
Sadly, we have lost many wonderful people to suicide. This new section of our web site has been established IN MEMORIAL to their lives and to their pain. It is a reason for all of us to work together to find ways to prevent additional suicides. To promote suicide prevention, TARA NAPD has established a scholarship fund in memory of those whose lives were cut short by this painful illness. Gifts "in memory" to those listed will be placed into a dedicated account for scholarship assistance for people with borderline personality disorder who may wish to attend conferences and similar events. Please make checks out to In Memory, TARA NAPD. If you want to add a page in memory of someone lost to BPD suicide, please contact our office at 212-966-6514.
Borderline Personality Disorder can be fatal. Ten per cent of sufferers complete suicide. Many deaths are caused by co-morbid conditions such as substance abuse, eating disorders, or impulsive sex leading to AIDS. TARA NAPD has established a scholarship fund in memory of those whose lives were cut short by this painful illness. Gifts "In Memory" of those listed will be placed into a dedicated account for scholarship assistance for people with borderline personality disorder who may wish to attend conferences and events. Please send specially earmarked checks to TARA NAPD, In Memorial Fund...
Patricia (Patty) Susan Rockwood
December 15, 1967-June 19, 2003
Our precious and priceless Patty has finally found peace and lies in the loving arms of her grand= parents and all those who shared her courage, gentle- ness of heart, and compassion for all living creatures who were weak, in need, or in pain. Patty's initiation into this temporal world brought with it the unabashed display of her impeccable standards of goodness and fairness, her frolicking mirth, her spontaneous dimpled smile, her passion for expressing herself without hypocrisy, and her almost otherworldly sensitivity to negative stimuli and perceived and real hurt, which she endured constantly.
She battled daily to fit here on earth, but each skirmish with her various demons and fears: a mental health and substance abuse system that lacked the insight, ingenuity, or tenacity to get interested or invested enough to engage her, and abundant incidents of abuse, victimization, and two-timing by those who smelled someone who was ripe for the taking , for using, and then leaving, but each onslaught and abandonment left her weakened by overwhelming emotional and physical scars until there was no room left for healing. The greatest loves of her life were her cats. For thirteen years Quack-a-Doodle watched over her.
Quacky's death in October 2001 began Patty's all-encompassing alienation and isolation. Even her new delightful kitty Lilith was unable to fill the enormous void Patty felt inside. Her Mom and Dad and immediate family poured all they could into the huge holes of her soul, but we failed. To several others who tried in earnest to ease her pain and validate her gifts, we thank you for touching her heart, releasing her laughter, or making her briefly ignore her anxiety.
Gail and Rocky Rockwood
Dear Ma & Da,
I am sorry about my behavior of late, including last Sunday's visit and especially for its repercussions that I caused. I am constantly surrounded by many very, very sick people, patients and staff. I am screamed at and ordered around by vicious, cruel people all the time. I am bound by rules that are inconsistently applied and often make no sense! As a result of all this, I am losing touch with what is real and who is whom. I know it is I who got myself in this predicament and prolonged my stay. Please, rather than rubbing those things in my face and threatening to abandon me, I could really be helped by your kindness and support, which would aid me in keeping myself together to get out and do what I need to do after I am released. Please help me (us) succeed.
Your daughter, Patty